(x-posted from PFF)
Every now and then, one simply needs to vent. Here’s mine for today, feel free to add your own!
Open Letter to Blog Owners and Committed Community Members
I don’t give a damn about what other blogs you and your people like, or do not like.
I have NO interest in who hates who, who outed who, who is getting paid by who, who is a sock puppet, who slept with who, who you’ve banned or whether or not they deserved it. I don’t care if you have a thousand rules or no rules at all.
Blog wars remind me of watching a bunch of third graders throwing sand at each other on the playground or a bunch of little boys playing “King of the Hill”.
When I do register on a blog, it means I’ve found something interesting to read and respond to, or perhaps a place I’d want to post some work on now and then.
It does NOT imply I wish to JOIN YOUR BLOGGING COMMUNITY, or that I wish to HELP YOU BUILD YOUR BLOG, or that I have CHOSEN YOUR BLOG OVER THE COMPETITION, OR HAVE PLEDGED MY UNDYING LOYALTY TO YOUR CAUSE! Blogging is my hobby, not my life’s work. I am an itinerant blogger by choice.
I hang out on a blog as long as I am enjoying myself. That means as long as there are enough interesting writers, topics, and commenters from ALL sides of the issues, including an ample number of “Others” (meaning people besides straight white males.)
As soon as it becomes clear to me I’ve landed on yet another typical all white male hierarchal blog system (where I must genuflect to the king or queen and their courts) I am outa there. I’m getting old. My time is too valuable to waste in any more of those systems.
I don’t give a damn what direction the prevailing “clique” on any blog is leaning, and will make my own decisions about where I post and when.
Wow, that really sounds angry, doesn’t it? Fact is, I am not currently angry at anyone, really. (OK..maybe kos and Boo a little, still 🙂
But I have hit the wall, it seems, in terms of getting a belly full of hearing that if I post on one blog, I shouldn’t be posting on the other..(if I had a brain, or some such message.)
I think it’s fine to feel loyal to a blog or a blog owner, if that turns your crank. Go for it. Been there, done that myself.
But if new readers feel that also have to “choose up sides”, in order to be “acceptable” here , you’re going to lose some good folks who you might not want to lose, too.
Overall, this continual focusing on blog PERSONALITIES, over blog CONTENT, continues to mystify me. Yeah, people love meta. I do too, for entertainment now and then, in measured doses. (But keeeerist..one more 300 comment threat about Armando and/or MSOC and I will puke all over my keyboard!)
I will not be proclaiming any website or blog my “community” ever again. Because we have not yet progressed to building online communities that do NOT require excluding a great many people. And over and over again, they are people I find incredibly interesting and valuable: people I have learned much from.
If “Others” are not welcome on a blog, it is not a place I care to stay for long either. If it turns out to be a blog made up primarily of straight white males , won’t hang around long either, because I already know all I ever wish to know about those kinds of systems and how they operate, and have long ago absorbed their overall interpretation of where my “proper place is”. Fuck that!
That’s it for now: I just needed to blow off some steam!