If you think about it, there is not a broader category of human experience to talk/write about than sex. It deeply informs and influences every aspect of human activity and interaction, as I pointed out in Sex: Part 1. From politics to spirituality to health to science, there is just a amazing amount of subject matter. In this edition, I had intended to write about the patriarchy and its cowardly attempts at domination and oppression of women over the past few eons….might makes right and all of the social and political aspects of that, sad state of affairs. But I find myself moved instead to write about the deepest reality and aspect of sex. The pure human aspect of it. The comfort and warmth and joy of it, the giggling slap and tickle….the lonely, longing, deep despair of losing it, the flush of excitement and horniness, and fear….of finding it. There is nothing more universal, human, and natural, which is why it’s also pretty confusing to think that some are adamant that pornographic material from sites such as videos hd and others, isn’t natural also.
than sex.
Gay or straight, kinky or vanilla, shameful or gloried in, physical or through mediums like https://www.35p-cheap-phone-sex.com/, it matters not. Sex is the root of all human being. We are born of it, we are filled with it, we are at our happiest when we are one with it.
For oneness is what sex is.
Our first experience in this cold, rough and tumble world is separation. Pushed and pulled from the constricted comfort ad safety of our mothers womb into the air, separate and alone for the first time, for the first of many separations. We know hunger the first time when we are pulled from the breast. We know loneliness and fear for the first time when we call for our mother and she is not there. We know the separateness of anger for the first time when we want and are denied. We leave home to go to school, we move away from home to become adults. All separations. We may find some unity along the way when we meet and connect with like minded friends, for some there is a union achieved through religion, (some would say that the first separation, the deepest separation humans feel is from ‘god,’ as a product of being human) but….
The only real unity we ever achieve on every level of our being…is sex, and hopefully, if we are fortunate the love that goes with it in the best of cases. And some never even have the luck to feel that. We are all seekers after union, and that union is found in sex. The poets sing paeans to love and their tender tunes pluck the strings of our heart and lead us to lose ourselves in love….
…..til it’s time to do the nasty….and we must fill or be filled…and all pretense is stripped away….and we are …home. In union.
The evolved art of love is cast aside with our clothes and the deep primal need for sex drives us panting into each other. No matter who, priest or politician, denies it how, with law or taboo.
The greatest separation (god aside, if you are into that) is the human spirit being separated into ‘male’ and ‘female,’ (physical forms and parts aside, in the case of our gay brothers and sisters) and there is only one true way to bridge that gap, if only for those slim moments in time when we are one. In union. Fucking.
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Although I am now single it was not always so…
Sex is deep and wonderful when love is involved (damn you for making me remember how much I miss it, LOL!) and you’re doing a fantastic job with this series. ;-D
gave us a lovely picture with the woman on top. Was that deliberate?
Only two parts to sex? You could easily make this an ongoing series. Somehow I think the audience might be there for that.
Oh. Somebody with “super powers” might want to put up a rec button very enjoyable essay, boss.
i’ll go finish reading♥~
(^.^)
The short-haired brunette (seen briefly in male drag), by the way, is Diana Rigg’s daughter.
Dated a man. A very charismatic and persuasive man, successful in his field blah blah blah. Well, he brought up the topic of sex. He went on and on about how he did not like condoms and they ruined the feeling and he didn’t have any sexual diseases and he was absolutely NOT going to wear one and he didn’t know very many women who liked them either….
I thought hmmmm.
So I said to him… I am really sorry to hear that because I find myself very attracted to you and I have a feeling you’re a very sexual person but we are not getting it on without them. End of discussion, dinner is over you can take me home now.
Dude grumbles all the way on the drive home. Drops me off silently and I think well, won’t be hearing from him again, too bad because I really did get a vibe that we had something.
An hour later the phone rings and it is my grouchy date who says,”Just wanted you to know that I stopped off at Super Drug and picked up some condoms.”
I filed that away under ( wow they really will do anything…)
but i do agree…..
day-um!
you surely captured it….
I came here for the Sex…..
Part II
love your writing of this, buhdy.
and i’m soooooooooooooo glad you didn’t go into the male vs female… male domination thing.
for me, sex is like a gift-wrapped package. there’s the curiosity and interest in the shiny bows and handsome paper and what’s in the box!!! it’s fun to tear off the wrappings. i love holding my breath, opening the box lid, separating the tissue paper, digging down into the box, and finally… coming up with it.
but the gift isn’t all of it. then there’s all the snuggling and hugging afterwards. and telling each other how beautiful, wonderful, lovely, funny we are.
what you wrote hit it, for me… thanks.
While we are talking about it is everybody else out doing it?
find this far too difficult to talk about in a public forum, Buhdy! 🙂 probably since i’ve been with one person for many years, talking about sex seems sort of… eek, too private.
we met across a crowded bar table. i was on a date with a guy i really liked. it was love (my version) or lust (jbk’s version) at first sight. i never looked back, that’s for sure! and i can say that the initial “boom” attraction remains, altered a bit maybe from the initial walk-into-walls-while-talking, but still a force to be reckoned with. 😉
always thought old Bruce got it just about right with his song “Human Touch.”
the ultimate expression and experience.
Though I will say that the most beautiful night of my entire life was crouching on the floor of a surging sailboat teasing with my young partner under a starry black sky. We could only have carried on for hours, undiscovered 4 feet from her helmsman father, thanks to the intense darkness, the loud pulsing swish of spray –and his being positioned directly upwind of her!
I’ve had many hours of different experience of sex, but I’ve also had thousands of hours of time playing music with and for people, flashes of genuinely new invention & discovery, and occasions to teach or mentor others to self-reliance. All have been intensely beautiful, going to the core of my sense of being and dreams that everyone I’ve ever known has expressed.
While I would never give up all of sex for any of those things, I would easily give up a great deal of sex for much in those other joys. I actually have, come to think of it.
Some of us are highly sexual. Some very little. I’ve been fortunate to have partners spanning a range, from my feeling completely left out of her private party, on down to my being the only one of us having a party.
But I must say, in this country, erring on the high side of promoting the joys of sex is much healthier than what we’ve been having!
is like like, well… sex without love, or passion, or heat, or, or… sex!
There Is Something On Your Mind!
And besides… I needed an excuse to post the picture of Andro the Ass.
Andro because I can’t tell if (s)he’s a girl or a boy 🙂