Friday Philosophy: I sat down on the floor…and I can’t get up

I had an alternate title:  Frienemies with Aging.  This could be part two of a very slow-moving series:  On Aging was published March 7, 2008.

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When we got home from teaching last night, and with Debbie not having to teach at City Tech this morning because classes were canceled for Rosh Hashanah, I decided to use the fact that we had no classes this morning to do something to make the place slightly more livable.

Like assemble the cat tree we had purchased online from somewhere similar to this: https://paydaydeals.com.au/collections/cat-scratching-posts.  Photos of the finished project will be interspersed among this story of pain and fatigue and just growing old.  Now I didn’t have the camera with me last night when I was stuck on the floor, so I went the extra mile for verisimilitude and got back down on the floor in order to show the view from there and during the struggle to rise up against my oppressor:  gravity.



The completed structure

The cat tree came with a base, three platforms, three #28 posts, a #43 post, and a #58 post (bets are that these are the sizes in centimeters, but we didn’t measure them to determine that), three bolts with washers, three bolts without washers, and two double-ended bolts.  And two cat toys, neither of which appeared as pictured in the advertisement.  Rather than a ball, we got a mouse and a whale.



A problem bolt

Step one of the assembly process required my assuming a position on the floor, in order to screw the bolts with washers up through the top of the base, from beneath, and into three of the posts (two 28s and the 53).  After that, the rest of the assembly should have been smooth sailing.



View from the floor

Somehow, just as I can’t recollect exactly how I managed to become 61, my body seems to no longer remember how exactly one gets up off the floor.  I have the distinct memory of not even having to think about the individual actions necessary to complete this task…even as little as ten years ago.  But now, even though I can imagine myself springing up off the floor, when I will myself to do it, no muscle contractions take place to make it happen.

Like there is a short circuit somewhere.



The carpeted commode

To actually get up required a strenuous process of first getting into a position where I could roll over into a position from which I could hoist myself onto my hands and knees…and then find something to grab to pull myself up with.

I was in full sweat mode by the time I was up.



The mouse at the end of the rainbow

I can hear folks’ brainpans working even now, thinking this is just because you are out of shape.  While it is true that I am no longer in the shape I was in my athlete years (basketball, baseball, football, cross country, and crew), I can still run if I need to, can lift heavy objects (as evidenced repeatedly during our recent move), and am relatively nimble when upright most of the time.  It’s getting from down to up that seems to be the problem.

Becoming old is not all it is cracked up to be.



The view from on high

The hard part seems to be that I’m apparently not that old.  I remember growing up at a time when 62 (which happens in a little over 6 months) was the age one could…even was expected to…retire.  But somehow retirement keeps moving further away the closer I get to it.  Then it became 65 provided, you know, you wanted full benefits.  Then that number began upwardly migrating.  People my age now has to wait until they  are 66.  People born after 1960 will have to wait until they are 67 and there is a sliding scale for those born in the 1950s.

That would be good, unless I would want retirement benefits from my employer…in which case I could continue to have health coverage for my partner between the time that I retire and she can.  The trouble is that the union contract with the college says I need to have worked here for 20 years for that.  I’d have to wait until I am 72 for that to happen.

Of course, if we were allowed to marry, the rules would be different.  But such is life for aging lesbians.

Of course, we could have a lot of years to look forward to, like Verena Mazzazu and Caroline Leto, who yesterday celebrated their 70th year together.  Verena is 97 and Caroline is 96.

“We’re not going to have a party,” said Magazzu, 97, insisting they are too old for such things.

“Oh yes we are,” responded Leto, 96, who noted the two can still polka. “This is a big one.”

Indeed. A party celebrating 70 years together is a big deal for any pair. But a celebration of this couple’s love takes on special meaning, considering they had to keep silent about it for decades.

“You just couldn’t tell everyone we were lovers,” said Leto. “You tell people we’re friends, and some thought we were sisters.”

Seventy years.  Debbie and I have been together less than 15.  In 55 years I’ll be 116.  

Who am I kidding?  In 55 years I’ll be dead.


Shedding Youth

Older

Skin paper thin

and easily bruised

Bones more brittle

with each day

that passes

I grow shorter

an inch and a quarter

so far

Nine pills I swallow

in every twenty-four hours

to keep my metabolism

on an even keel

My hair stylist asked

if my hair color

used to be blond

I thought it still was

–Robyn Elaine Serven

–September 18, 2009

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    • Robyn on September 19, 2009 at 12:02 am
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    …as this was published.

    Tribble?  Decidedly not.

  1. On 9/17 my love and I had our 32nd anniversary.  We haven’t had our celebration yet.  As I told somebody on Thursday, it doesn’t feel like 32 years, it feels like 32 minutes. Really.  But this couple who were together for 70 years?  It probably feels to them like an hour and ten minutes.  Or less.  I hear that when you get old, each minute doesn’t still have 60 seconds.  It might have 47 or, if you live in New York, 29 seconds.

    • Robyn on September 19, 2009 at 12:23 am
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  2. …they will mostly ignore that beautiful ‘tree’ house.

    I had two and they’re were sitting idle and took up valuable real estate in my tiny house. Mine prefer paper bags and card board boxes.

    And yes, triple yes! It sucks getting old!

    I fell on my derriere not too long ago and though I didn’t break anything I was pretty banged up. I’m in need of help now when I have to move things like cabinets, something I would’ve done without thinking just a couple of years ago.

    I don’t feel old, I just learned to play the bass for g*ds sakes. It’s a fact I have to learn to live with, but not without kicking and screaming!

  3. just stop getting old then!

    somehow

    And then…..let me know how you do it!

  4. I mean really…. ugh!

    I was just remembering a time about a year ago, that I tripped (on the hem of my pants!) in the parking lot of Target and… well, I couldn’t get up for a good few minutes. A very polite young man (!) ((maybe about 25?)) stopped to help me. Lord have mercy, did I feel old. And Im only 53.

    Take that calcium, people!

  5. am till I catch myself when passing a window or mirror. Wow whose that told lady! Every now and then a older man will give me the eye and I forget that he is probably younger then I and think ‘what a dirty old man! lol. But all in all I kinda like the process I seem to be getting back to where I once belonged. I just as Wanda Sykes says I don’t give a fuck about the stuff that I used too, like what people think, or expect from an adult, I don’t have the time. I can still dance, run and art I mean to do so as long as possible.

    My next door neighbors of 18 years died this year at 93 and 96. I learned a lot from them about aging they kept living until they went. Mike gardened and at 90 got on a ladder and cleaned his own gutters. Rocky donned her poker hat and played some serious poker with her cronies every Wednesday night. When I asked them how did you make it this far and good they both said ‘Stay away from doctors, eat good and don’t sit around too much unless your sick. Mike added that there is no rest for the wicked and it keeps us wicked souls young.

    “OU are old, Father William,” the young man said,

    “And your hair has become very white;

    And yet you incessantly stand on your head–

    Do you think, at your age, it is right?”

    “In my youth,” Father William replied to his son,

    “I feared it might injure the brain;

    But, now that I’m perfectly sure I have none,

    Why, I do it again and again.”

    ‘Now be off or I’ll kick you downstairs.’    

    • frosti on September 19, 2009 at 1:37 am

    three months ago my mother in law had a stroke

    and three hours ago, she broke her ankle in a fall.  Sigh.

    I am sorry, but I found your predicament on the floor to be comedic.  My mind thinks it is easy to get up off of the floor, but my knees say they hurt. My kneecaps seem to have gotten sharp and lack cushioning.

    Mike told me that his youngest daughter had the second highest math score in the district.  This bright daughter proclaimed that she is like her uncleaunt.  

    • TMC on September 19, 2009 at 1:56 am

    I still haven’t figured out what I want to be when I grow up at the fair age of 62. I can still get up off the floor thanks to my Yoga instructor and a really great Neurologist in Amsterdam.

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