Group blames women for rape.

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Also posted at L’Orange.

Today there is a group distributing a religious tract called Women and Girls. Right here, in the United States. It teaches girls that they make men want to be sinful.

“You may have been given this leaflet because of the way you are dressed,” it begins. “Have you thought about standing before the true and living God to be judged?”

The leaflet warns particularly about tight and form fitting clothing.

Scripture tells us that when a man looks on a woman to lust for her he has already committed adultery in his heart. If you are dressed in a way that tempts a men to do this secret (or not so secret) sin, you are a participant in the sin…By the way, some rape victims would not have been raped if they had dressed properly. So can we really say they were innocent victims?

The world over, women are held responsible for sexual crimes perpetrated against them. Sometimes when a woman is raped, she is caned, shamed, and sometimes even put to death. Marianne Mollmann, who is the director for women’s rights at Human Rights Watch wrote Ending Impunity for Rape. She tells us that rape is rarely prosecuted anywhere in the world, and very few sexual assaults get reported. She says that all too often laws and judicial systems determine that forced sex does not qualify as a crime, and women who tell their stories often face a difficult battle.

Although most people agree that rape is bad, it tends to get classified into many different bins — bins that get graded on a scale from “unconscionable” to “much deserved.” Mollmann argues that laws often make make particular cases difficult to prosecute, and the standards for each crime depend on factors such as family status, sobriety and ethnicity.

It’s not rape if she is my wife.

It’s not rape if she is my daughter.

It’s not rape if she was drunk.

It’s not rape if my culture mandates intercourse.

Under most state criminal codes in Mexico, incest is a crime against the family, and not the victim. So, if a girl gets raped by her father it is consentual unless proven otherwise.

Jacob Zuma, president of South Africa, stood trial for rape charges in 2006. He testified that the woman signaled her arousal to him by wearing a knee-length skirt to his house and sitting with her legs crossed. He was acquitted.

Ethiopia and Indonesia define rape only outside of marriage. Elsewhere, rape is sometimes more broadly defined, but interpreted by courts and police as excluding marital rape. Brazil and Libya will exonerate a rapist if he agrees to marry his victim.

In the United States, there is a temptation to marginalize rape when it happens in other countries, as if it does not happen to us. Brutal violence gets dismissed as cultural or religious. It happens in other countries, of course. But the fact remains that violence against women knows no class, no wealth, no rank or station in life, and it certainly knows no nationality. And it turns out that the US convincts just about 10% of rape complaints filed. Britian convicts about 6%.

The violence against women in Afghanistan is endemic.

How do we know she’s telling the truth?

It won’t happen to me. I know judo.

She should have been smarter than that.

What do we really understand about sexual assault? Standards range from “it isn’t rape unless she’s visibly wounded” to “it’s rape if she didn’t want it, even if she didn’t tell him.” And it is no simple task to quantify the grey area in between. But quantifying is something we must do. But not until we look at the wrong thinking.

The ideas about that grey area are personal. They are based in our own sexual experience. All crimes carry the weight of innocent until proven guilty — so why don’t we suspect a victim of being complicit in their own mugging under ordinary circimstances?

We look a mugging victim in the eye, but cast a shameful downward glance at a rape victim. And most of the excuses we make for justifying rape carry with them an element of denial. Perhaps the perisistent victim blaming is really a way to clinging to hope that it can’t happen to me.

Smart girls don’t get raped.

Good girls don’t get raped.

That won’t happen to my wife, she knows judo.

We don’t act like that.

If I’m smart, good, and strong — and if I’m well behaved, sophisticated, and wear the right clothing — I won’t get raped. And if I can keep my gaze on the others, I don’t have to be afraid.

h/t to teacherken for the Mollmann diary.  

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    • Edger on February 28, 2010 at 9:23 pm

    I’d say if it takes force, and maybe even if it takes deception, it’s rape. and it’s assault.

    • TMC on February 28, 2010 at 9:52 pm

    that even here in  the US women are still blamed for violence directed at them. This is the American version of the Islamic extremists. They go hand in hand with the Right to lifers who justify killing doctors who perform abortions and blowing up abortion clinics. But then should we be surprised when there are states like Utah that make having a miscarriage a crime punishable by life in prison and 12th grade optional.

    • Diane G on February 28, 2010 at 10:25 pm

    Its pretty much rape.

    • Edger on February 28, 2010 at 10:55 pm

    is somewhat like blaming progressives for democrats bad poll numbers, no?

    It’s an attempt to evade responsibility.

  1. “And it turns out that the US convincts just about 10% of rape complaints filed. Britian convicts about 6%”

    Without knowing what the stats are regarding murder, bank robbery, etc., I `m very very surprised at the low percentage rates of convictions for rape.

    Rape complaints having a significant lower rate of conviction than other crimes,(I don`t know that they do) would show that the problem is much worse than I thought, especially after reading this very enlightening essay.

  2. It’s this kind of “sick” thinking that seems to infiltrate so many areas in our society today.

    Next thing, you know, a woman will be arrested by some “goon” for whatever he may deem “inappropriate” attire and “rapable!”

    Just look at what happened to a woman for asking “why” the other day:

    The Atlanta Journal-Constitution

    1:06 p.m. Thursday, February 18, 2010

    By Rhonda Cook

    Four women, two of them well into middle age, were discussing funeral plans for a friend when an Atlanta police officer told them to move.

    Three did but one asked “why.” In answer to her question,  Minnie Carey, then 61, was handcuffed, put into a police wagon and taken to jail, where she was held for nine hours.

    The Citizen Review Board found that Atlanta Police officer Brandy Dolson had violated APD policies and had falsely arrested Carey.

    “I was blown away,” Carey told The Atlanta Journal-Constitution. “I had heard about people in the community being harassed by the police … It really didn’t shock me as much as it probably would have if I had not heard of people going to jail for no reason. I figured I was just another one. . . . . (emphasis mine)

    Jailing — “le mode du jour!”

    One of the reasons stated for allowing abortion is RAPE, along with danger to a woman’s health — this seems a clear attempt to remove one of the main reasons for NOT allowing abortion.  In other words, woman can just suffer whatever consequences, as a result of rape!

    And to think that we thought we had made so many strides forward, in terms of gender, race, religious tolerance, etc.  When, reality is, we are retrogressing in just about every respect.

    Before long, we ought to be as backwards as some of the other countries mentioned.

    Thank you, rb137!

  3. is not a man.

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      Can you imagine what the cost was considering

    Production, air time, etc.?

      Every American should watch this video! Talk about a

    Picture being Worth a thousand words!

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    WHERE ARE WE NOW?

  5. These savages truly won’t be happy until women are wearing burqas in this country and are being stoned to death for the crime of allowing themselves to be raped.  And the worst part is, these savages have votes, and use them.

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