Don’t Worry, Be Happy; or at least Discuss the Possibility …

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What do you want? [from life]

A great job?

A fulfilling relationship?

Go sailing around the Pacific for a few years in your very own luxurious boat?

Or just to get along better with yourself?

Perhaps you want one of more of those things. But beneath those many common wishes, if you take it a step further, often lies a wish to find happiness.

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Here are seven such ideas about how you can find happiness.

How to Find Happiness: 7 Timeless Tips from the Last 2500 Years

by Henrik Edberg

Psychologists have the determined that Finding Happiness, may be simpler than you think.  It may only involve finding the “right audience” … and a some Quality Chat time?

Talk Deeply, Be Happy?

By RONI CARYN RABIN — March 17, 2010

Deep conversations made people happier than small talk, one study found. Would you be happier if you spent more time discussing the state of the world and the meaning of life – and less time talking about the weather?

It may sound counterintuitive, but people who spend more of their day having deep discussions and less time engaging in small talk seem to be happier, said Matthias Mehl, a psychologist at the University of Arizona who published a study on the subject.

“We found this so interesting, because it could have gone the other way – it could have been, ‘Don’t worry, be happy’ – as long as you surf on the shallow level of life you’re happy, and if you go into the existential depths you’ll be unhappy,” Dr. Mehl said.

But, he proposed, substantive conversation seemed to hold the key to happiness for two main reasons: both because human beings are driven to find and create meaning in their lives, and because we are social animals who want and need to connect with other people.

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Small talk made up only 10 percent of the happiest person’s conversations, while it made up almost three times as much — or 28.3 percent — of the unhappiest person’s conversations.

Next, Dr. Mehl wants to see if people can actually make themselves happier by having more substantive conversations.

http://well.blogs.nytimes.com/…

Interesting, Life getting you down?  

Well just Get Serious about something, and tell someone about it!

LOL, kind of sounds like Blogging!

Well if that advice is not Practical enough, or not Esoteric enough, for you, here a few more “Deep Thoughts” for you, to help kick off those ‘Existential Discussions’ for meaning, that lie waiting somewhere, in your future …

Learn to be calm and you will always be happy

–Paramhansa Yogananda

A happy life consists in tranquility of mind.

–Marcus Tullius Cicero

Happy people plan actions, they don’t plan results.

–Dennis Wholey

Most people are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.

–Abraham Lincoln (1809-1865)

Happiness is liberty from everything that makes us unhappy.

–Vernon Howard

They say a person needs just three things to be truly happy in this world. Someone to love, something to do, and something to hope for.

–Tom Bodett

http://www.indianchild.com/Quo…

So you see ‘Don’t Worry’ may actually put you in that state of mind, where Happiness, is just around the bend …

It may be as close, as your next meaningful conversation (?)

We ARE “social animals” after all, driven to find “meaning” in life’s challenges — it’s who we are.

It’s how Nature has shaped us … Don’t worry, DO Discuss.

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    • jamess on March 22, 2010 at 2:23 pm
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    This was changed for one issue to “Yes, me worry!” after the Three Mile Island nuclear meltdown in 1979.

    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/A

    • RUKind on March 22, 2010 at 10:56 pm

    Be content with what you have. Stop wanting what you don’t really need (material, relationships etc., not HCR or a non-corrupt banking system).

    Keep it local, in the moment and spend as much time in Nature as you can.

    White chocolate chip macadamia nut cookies (still warm) and Cherry Garcia ice cream also go a long ways to happiness.

  1. for me tho an enormous change has occurred…..

    I am no longer filled with rage and fear…..

    sorrow and despair…..

    I have went thro an incredible transition and my rage has fallen away……..

    just as it seems as the world is finding its again……

    I feel floaty and strange…..

    not yet at peace but no longer at war…..

    my identity is to a degree unanchored and the world is surreal…

    I hope to find peace but for now it is enough just to find rest……

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